Keep the bar high!

So there's one thing I learned a loooooooong time ago.....

"Don't expect anything from anyone!"

The more you EXPECT the more likely you are to be let down! If you're not expecting anything, isn't it more of a pleasant surprise?!? My little cousin used to call me all the time stressin out about family drama and how "no one wants him around." He felt that way because he always expected to be included in everything that everyone did! So when they would go do things without him, BAM "JAMES, NO ONE WANTS ME AROUND!!!!!" That's not true... We build expectations in routines without even knowing it. Growing up we alllllll did things together. When an uncle would go out to eat, we allllll went out to eat with him. Expectations are definitely not a good habit but we're human. We're creatures of habit.

To be independent is to not be influenced or controlled by others in matters of opinion, conduct, etc.

When you expect things, you're being influenced by what someone else does right? Is that being independent?

Most definitely isn't.


Another thing I've come to realize is that although you set high goals, they won't always be obtainable. Not to say they're impossible because nothing is impossible! I'm also not saying to lower your standards! Keep them HIGH. It's motivation! There are just times when what you reach for is just going to stay out of reach for a little bit longer. Everyone grows and never really stops growing. Maybe its just not the right time at the moment. Maybe someone's just a little bit taller than you and can get to it first! Doesn't mean you can't reach it later.

I used to get frustrated when I would set high yet obtainable goals and still not be able to reach them. I would drive myself insane with frustration. It's not worth the time! Why get mad?
Step back, take a deep breath, evaluate the situation and attack things with a different perspective!

I'm Definitely growing, i can see it and I LOVE it! It feels great! I'm excited to see what's in store for my future... I wish i already knew but what's the fun in that? I like surprises!

Overly happy for a Tuesday?

So I woke up in a great mood this morning! Its only Tuesday! Not even close to being the weekend so I have no clue why I would even be so happy right now, but I am! : ) I titled this with a question knowing the answer is "NO." I was recently told there's no such thing as being overly happy and I now believe it. Call me crazy.... I'll just say "I'm sorry you suck!" You're obviously not enjoying youself! ; ) you should! Even in less fortunate times, I've learned that you have to be positive to get through them!

Before my Mom passed she would always tell me "Don't be sad when I'm gone. I won't be suffering anymore." It was amazingly hard to take those words and not be sad at that time. It wasn't till the weekend of her funeral service that it actually hit me. She went through dialysis 3 days a week for 6 years... She was no longer in pain. She wasn't tired anymore. She wasn't suffering. And as much as it still hurts me to know she's gone, I'm happy that she no longer has to deal with what she was going through. She was ALWAYS happy and did ANYTHING to make us happy.

Try being positive for a week. See how that works out for you!

pretty sure I'm broken.

So there's been a couple times now where I've had a great topic to write about, but when it actaully came down to wrting I didn't get very far. Whether it was getting distracted or just not knowing what to write, I seemed to not have the motivation to get it done.

Don't get me wrong, the past 2 times i was at work. So I'm going to blame it on that, but at the same time if I really wanted to I guess I can write now about what I was going to write then? I feel like writing in here is a spur of the moment thing though. If i brought up something that happened a while ago which isn't really on my mind now, does that still count?!? There are definitely times where I'll be starting things out with "ok, so the other day.......", but that'll be because its on my mind at that moment. So if i wrote half of it, but then decided to finish it another day its not that exciting to me anymore.

Oh well. I guess from now on if I'm going to write, I have to commit to actually finishing it like I did with this post!

Friday the 13th.

So today personally is going great. There's nothing going on that i can actually complain about. As I stated to a friend earlier, "with the exception of being at work, today's an ok day!" (cuz who wants to be at work when it isn't their dream job) I'm not one for superstition but work today is slowly but surely trying to bring me down! To be honest, EVERYTHING is going wrong today! 1 shippment got bumpped and won't deliver till Monday, another shipment was left at the airport and the agent that was supposed to do it doesn't have anyone to do it anymore and something that was supposed to be picked up by my driver got delivered to our warehouse and my driver isnt here anymore....! I'm not gonna blame it on "Friday the 13th" though cuz again, I'm not one for superstition. but i will say its kind of a coincidence.

Happy Friday everyone!

Self titled. (new day new adventure)

So, for some reason I've been coming across quotes that really seem to hit home lately. Today my friend Kim posted a quote on facebook that goes along with the title of my blog!

“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Maria Robinson

Everyone likes to say that the past is behind us and you can't take back what you did. It's very true! You can't take it back, but what you can do is take that experience and learn from it! Dissect it, analyze it, and try to fully grasp the information! Then put that knowledge towards the present and most likely towards the future... EVERYONE has a past and if they tell you they don't, they're obviously lying. It's up to you to decide if you want to keep on the path you've already made or to step off of that one and make a new one!

Unless you have access to a delorean that can take you back in time, you can't change who you WERE! It's never too late to change who you will become! They say everything happens for a reason, i believe it does because without experience, you'll never grow. Start today in a direction that you want it to end!

I hope you all have an amazingly wonderful day!

Enjoy it. its worth it!

I read a quote today that put a smile on my face...

it read "live for the moments you can't put into words"

The more and more i thought about it, the amazing moments that were most memorable were the "you had to have been there" moments! even if you put them into words, its definitely not the same and never cool explaining it to others. I look back and and can't help but to smile at these moments. Have you ever randomly thought of moments and laugh out loud? ((people around you look at you like you're crazy right?)) who cares! You're enjoying those moments! Even after they're gone and behind you, they're still around for you to enjoy! Stop stressing about the small stuff and live for the moments you can't put into words! I'm 99.9% sure you'll be happier! : )

Happy Mothers Day!

This goes out to all the amazing Mothers in the world!

Thank you Mom for all you've done!
You're comparable to absolutely no one. NONE.
They say a man becomes a father the first time he holds his baby,
But a Mother from the second you found out.... You're an amazing lady!
Thanks for all the times you were hard on me.
I realized you were opening my eyes to see!
Your inspiration has only helped me to grow.
You're wonderful! I just wanted to let you know.
I can never say it enough, thank you for being who you are!
I'll do my best to shine through you! Thanks for setting a high bar!

First of more to come.

So i was kinda tricked into making this thing. It's ok though because i know it'll be fun. As i was editing this, i went back to find some info that i wanted to use and i was caught off guard with hella old school memories! ADVENTURES that have been taken! I'm definitely excited to see what life has in store for me next....!